Three things I learned about overcoming defeat:

*Your position in the waiting room matters

* The “no” you’re given doesn’t close the book it just ends the sentence.

* God Cares about your Heart more than your EGO

Oh Heeey SIS.

I’m honored you have come to read one of my many love letters. As you know this letter is especially written for YOU. The girl overcoming defeat. The girl who thought one no meant she wasn’t enough. The girl who said well if they don’t accept my gift than maybe this “thing” really isn’t a gift at all.

I want to start off this letter by giving you some affirmations that I had to remind myself when my circumstances became my identity and the voices became louder than my God.

• You are fully equipped by the masters hand

• Before they told you no, God claimed you were HIS yes

• Your gifts were anointed by the assurance of God not the opinion of men

• The only truth you accept is the truth of Gods word

• You are not the enemy so stop beating yourself up

• Walk in Faith, never in fear

• You were created to do one thing, WIN

• Jesus died for your only option, LIVE and live ABUNDANTLY

Okay sis so listen, when I say:

*Your position in the waiting room matters

What I’m saying is your posture and position makes a difference. When I felt like I was creating blogs, starting communities, posting on Instagram, shouting out the big-names on Facebook, going to conferences, meeting influencers I though my time was surely here but the reality is I was only busy. I hadn’t asked God where He wanted me to be or where I should focus my time and attention.

I remember this one time I cried out and I said “God I’m doing all of this for you and I feel like I’m getting nowhere” and He said no…… you did that for YOUR name sake and you’re doing good, but when it comes time to do what I’M asking you to do don’t be to busy doing you that you don’t fulfill ME.

Talk about mind blown

When I accepted the truth of how I was out of position I slowly placed my focus on His instructions and became willing to do it His way. Your position matters because you can be doing a lot of good things and getting nowhere with God.

So the reality Is when you’re out of position your posture is probably messed up as well. Sometimes we don’t realize our posture of Pride, entitlement, defeat or even victim! Trust me I’ve been in all of them. The one thing all of these postures have in common is blinders. When you are prideful you’re to focused on SELF to see God. When entitled you see other people’s lack over how God can use you to make up the gap. When defeated your to focused on self-sabotage you can’t see victory or the weapons to use for battle. When you are always feeling, talking, and acting like the victim you can never see when God is pruning you for greater and attempting to shed your dead weight.

* The “no” you’re given doesn’t close the book it just ends the sentence.

This year God called me to host a 5-City “Faith Unleashed” Tour. Let me first say I’ve hosted an online women’s conference called “Falling In Love with ME” for 4 years now and this year as He opened door for me to go before people He didn’t say do a small gathering He said FIVE CITIES and start in two months!!

Listen, when its God’s WILL it is God’s BILL!

You can’t afford to pay for doubt when God gave you the best banker in the universe! You don’t have to take on purpose and the promise of God alone. He never asked you to and He never will. Trusting God is key to overcoming the no’s. I even heard God clear as day tell me to reach out to one lady in particular to be a speaker for the tour and she told me “no.” Sisssssss I was salty, offended, and confused. Why God would you have me to ask If she was going to say no.

Lesson One

Your obedience is your obligation and so is the obedience of all who are called. You just have to stay YOUR course and allow God’s word to be sent out because Isaiah 55:11 reminds us that His word shall NOT return unto Him Void but It will accomplish what He established. Lastly remember this, God doesn’t need your ability He just needs your obedience. I’m sure you’ve said NO a time or two when God said say YES.

Lesson Two

When applying for grants, event spaces, vendors, and even inviting attendees I have got probably 100 no’s or people just ignoring & ghosting me but in the matter of 2 months I have received some key Yes’s that I know could have ONLY been God and made some amazing friends along this journey in obedience.

Lesson Three

Focus on your YES and not your NO. Slowing down is not an option because of an ending on a sentence. Imagine if the moment Jesus heard Peter say He couldn’t go to the cross, and He stopped, how many of us would be lost due to an incomplete book? I don’t care how many no’s I got, Gods yes meant more!

and lastly sis,

* God Cares about your Heart more than your EGO

You can be honest…. we’ve all gotten a big head a time or two in life. We sell that first book, book that first engagement, or pray for someone for the first time and we feel accomplished. And the moment the accolades stop rolling in we looking at God like KEEP EM COMING hahahahahahah.

When you understand your “WHY” in life, in ministry, in purpose…. keep it close to your heart because in this walk as a Christian you will have two options as it pertains to success: Stay humble or Be humbled! It does not matter how bad you want to be used by God when it’s not the right time, it’s not the right time! It is okay to be in the development phase. How else will you be shaped for greatness?

I’ve become so heart broken because I felt like I should have been used at certain moments when God chose someone else. And the fact that I felt some way shows me His Kingdom, His honor, and His glory weren’t the main objectives. And no matter how long, hard, or loud you cry God is not going to birth pre-maturely for the sake of your EGO!

So sis: Don’t allow a setback to be your final destination allow God to regroup & relaunch you! There is so much purpose in you that others need, just develop in God’s presence with the right posture and trust that He will guide you to the expected end.

Well Love you dearly & as always

Speak Truth, Spread Love

Sincerely, Lady J

ps.. Scriptures to ponder:

“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 1:3

“But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31

“He has made everything beautiful in its time.” Ecclesiastes 3:11

“For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end— it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.” Habakkuk 2:3